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Raising Resilient Children

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Some children are born with many desired traits. They can naturally be resilient, sociable, bold, optimistic and much more. Children with these traits tend to grow quite self-confident as they reach adolescence. Their ability to persevere and roll with the punches of life is evident in their behavior and personalities on a day to day basis. Other kids are not so fortunate. However, not all children are naturally predisposed with these traits. Some children are delayed in learning and can be mistrusting towards other people. They lack the personal dimensions needed to live a consistently healthy life.

Family Influence
Resilient children emerge when they have developed a close bond with at least one emotionally stable person, who treats them with respect. This individual doesn’t have to be a parent; it might be a sibling, grandparent, aunt or uncle who assists with child rearing. A naturally resilient youngster may automatically adopt an alternate parental figure, if their mom and dad are not as involved as they should be. When family factors are negative, alternate caregivers can lend a hand and provide positive reinforcement.

Community Influence
Child development is often the result of a group effort. Research shows that psychologists, who treat adults with emotional problems, often hear the patient fondly recall an individual who helped them in their childhood. Particularly, a very caring teacher, a neighbor or clergy, who made the child feel special. In some cases, when their own parent couldn’t. The memory of that person can help bring an indisposed person back to health. A teacher that is actively involved in students’ lives can help encourage the development of a positive child identity.

Building Resilience
The most important factor in healthy child rearing, is for adults to cultivate loving relationships with children. An environment that nourishes strength and provides a layer of protection is very reassuring. It is also significant for children to be attuned to the world around them. Those who understand nature’s ability to adapt, always growing and recovering from different conditions, will be reassured and comfortable as they go through the motions of life.

A useful tool to help promote healthy child development is the use of fairy tales. They contain life lessons and images that children can relate to in times of trouble. It guides them in understanding that although you should learn independence and to become self-sufficient, sometimes it is best to ask others for help. In the stories they are told, the aids come in the form of animals or enchanted beings. To encourage resilience in children, it is helpful to teach them that in reality, a parent or parental figure will have their best interest at heart to lend a helping hand when they need guidance.